Who am I?
Hey there, my name is Mary! I’m an ex-fearful flyer turned flight attendant with a background in Psychology and Education. Now, my passion is teaching fearful flyers how to conquer their fear of flying!
How did this become my life?
For as long as I could remember I was obsessed with travelling. Growing up, my parents would take us on family trips every summer to visit my grandparents in Germany. I remember it feeling like a whole other world. As soon as we would return to our home in Vancouver, Canada, I’d already be daydreaming about the next trip back to Europe.
The travel bug had already bit me hard and I wasn’t even a teenager yet.
From the time I was 18 years old and able to book my own flights, I travelled as often as I possibly could. Any chance I could get on a plane, I would take it. I even spent a gap year living in Hong Kong and travelling around SouthEast Asia.
I never even thought twice about getting on a plane. In fact, I enjoyed flying because it meant thrilling adventures were soon to be had. I was never even remotely scared once on a plane. But then something happened…
I was 24 years old at the time, and was on a flight to Montreal, Quebec. The plane had just taken off when out of nowhere the seatbelt sign flashed on, and the captain announced that we would be experiencing turbulence.
Then the shaking began. I started sweating and breathing extremely fast, I felt like I was hyperventilating. My head felt dizzy and I felt like I was going to die. I was certain the plane was going to crash. I didn’t realize it at the time but I was experiencing my first ever panic attack.
After the flight I remember thinking, this couldn’t be happening to me?! I am NOT scared of flying. Turbulence had never affected me before, but suddenly here I was, absolutely terrified of flying.
And it only got worse from then on. Turbulence or no turbulence, it didn’t matter, it was all the same-panic attacks were now a regular part of my flying experience.
Travelling, my greatest passion in life was now a source of my greatest anxiety.
But just as intense as my fear was, was my passion for exploring the world - so I set out to seek help, obsessively.
I looked everywhere to learn about how to control this fear and anxiety - read as many books as I was able to get my hands on - went through every single article I could find and watched many hours of videos on the subject.
On one hand, it was great because there was a lot of information. But on the other hand it was a very messy, time consuming and painful process.
There was a lots of quality information available but it wasn't easy to digest.
Some of it was written in heavy psychological terminology. Other sources seemed to only look at the problem from a specific angle, leaving large gaps and big question marks.
When I got busy sifting through all the information I started to see the big picture and how it all fit together.
I began to systematically consume the relevant information and try the strategies and guess what - the approach worked!
I was successfully able to overcome my fear of flying!
I felt so comfortable flying that I was able to pursue my lifelong dream of traveling the world by becoming a flight attendant. Yes - I was able to work on an airplane!
Conquering my fear of flying dramatically transformed my life. Not only was I able to travel the world for a living, but the positive effects leaked over into other areas of my life. My confidence improved and I know that I can confront any challenge that comes my way.
Now, I've made it my mission to share what I have learned to help drive other fearful flyers face their fears - to replace old inaccurate stories and ideas about flying - and break free from flight anxiety so that travelling can seem a whole lot brighter!
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